By Crystal Kehn …
I read a quote today that kept rolling around in my mind because it sounded empowering, but didn’t settle with my spirit as truth I wanted to cling to. The most dangerous lies are found mushed in between a lot of really great truth and disguised as light so we all nod our heads in agreement, print t-shirts in calligraphy handlettering, and post on social media. The lie is only exposed when we’ve walked down the path a ways and find ourselves in the mess the enemy has convinced us was going to be our peace. I want to make so clear that I’m not attacking the beautiful God-image bearing woman who said this, but the enemy who is the father of all lies, and wants women to believe they should be the ones in control of their own lives.
“Know this one great truth: You are in control of your own life.” -Rachel Hollis
I searched the internet for quotes about control and found similar ones in abundance, so she’s not alone. These few only scratch the surface:
“Don’t let someone else control what you do in life. It’s your decisions, your outcomes, your life.” Anonymous
“No one has power over you unless you give it to them, you are in control of your life and your choices decide your own fate.” Anonymous
“The pen that writes your life story must be held in your own hand.” Irene C. Kassorla
I’ve been there done that tried to write my own life story and after a lot of pain and bitterness finally came to the realization that I’m going to be at my happiest if I put the pen back in the Lord’s hand where it always belonged.
Years of struggling with anxiety and depression, reeling after the punch in the gut of someone else’s sin, infant loss, circumstances out of my control and international moves have taught me that control is an illusion. What I have learned is this: the only thing I can control is who I run to when the storms of life rage. Who will I put my trust in? Who will I look to for my peace? Who will I worship? Who will I give thanks to when He gives and takes away?
There are a few Scriptures I have bound around my heart to remind me where peace is truly found when the storms of life come, which we have His word that they will (John 16:33). And here, I can hold up every “truth” to the light and if they are lies in disguise they will be exposed.
Isaiah 26:3 “You will keep in perfect peace him who mind is steadfast, because he trusts in you.”
Colossians 3:2-3 “Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God.”
Romans 5:1-2 “Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in with we now stand. And we rejoice in the hope of the glory of God.”
Isaiah 12:2 “Surely God is my salvation; I will trust and not be afraid. The LORD, the LORD, is my strength and my song; he had become my salvation.”
Job 1:20-21 “At this, Job got up and tore his robe and shaved his head. Then he fell to the ground in worship and said: Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked will I depart. The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away; may the name of the LORD be praised.”
John 14:27 “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”
John 10:10 “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.”
When we bind our hearts to these truths, sisters, it is here that our eyes are opened to the emptiness of the lies that vie for our hearts attention. So I say, surrender, loosen your grip, even if you have to pry one finger back at a time using your teeth. Being in control is an illusion and abundant life will continue to elude you until you surrender and rest in the One who is, has always been and always will be.